I originally wrote and published this in 2012, three years after my dad died. Today is 10 years. I can’t believe it — it still seems like yesterday.

I usually try to republish it every year, but haven’t for a couple of years, mostly due to not really writing or posting much during that time. Now that I’m posting again regularly (or semi-regularly at least), it’s back.

December 12, 2012

Three years ago tonight, at 8:30 PM Pacific Time, I was sitting on my couch playing Assassin’s Creed II. My twins were nearly 6 months old, and they were laying on the floor in front of the couch playing with some stuffed animals. Tiffany was at work. It was cold and rainy outside. My phone rang. The caller ID on my iPhone showed it was my brother, so I answered the way I usually do when he calls:

“Hey! What’s up, man?”

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Goodbye, Facebook

Update – May 1, 2019: Gone.

Ed. Note – April 24, 2019: I originally wrote the post below on February 1st, but for whatever reason decided to stick around for a bit. However, the latest batch of stories coupled with the fact that most posts I read make me literally hate everyone and everything finally pushed me over the edge.

TLDR: In an effort to preserve my sanity and for my own mental health, I’ll be deactivating, then eventually deleting, both my Facebook and Instagram accounts at the end of the month.

Dear Facebook,

It’s time for me to go.

If I think about it, this has been coming for quite a while. I haven’t exactly been quick to do anything about it (I mean how else am I supposed to know it’s the birthday of a friend I had in high school that I haven’t seen or talked to in 25 years?), but it’s time.

Why, you ask? Well, pick one or more:

I’m not sure exactly which of the above was the straw that finally broke the camel’s back, but over the last few days something finally pushed me to do something about it.

To my family and friends on Facebook:

I’ve enjoyed reconnecting with old friends, but I don’t want to keep supporting this company. There are a few ways that you can keep in touch with me if you’d like (I’d love it if you do). You can:

P.S. – Since Facebook owns Instagram and is ruining that too, I’ll be deactivating my Instagram account as well.

Quitting smoking

When I came back to Pennsylvania after visiting my boys in Portland for Thanksgiving, I decided to quit smoking, and I decided to do it cold turkey. This has been really, really hard. Probably one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but:

Today is day 20 without a cigarette.

I’ve been posting every day — usually only one or two lines, or in some cases emojis — about my progress so far. If you want to follow along with this shitshow, you can do so over here.